I blogged immediately after watching this program on Norwegian Broadcasting Corporation (NRK3.) I am talking about a reality show named Trekant! This is one show that has challenged my Africanness and I am being honest about it. On the NRK´s webpage, this is what explains the show-Do you understand sex? Three presenters Even, Johanna and Benjamin will learn how the sexual organs work, what people are doing to improve them, and not least about orgasm.
I first heard about it from my friends who were curious to know my thoughts about this program. They asked me to follow it up online and more specifically to watch last nights episode. “This week it´s all about the sex of the triangle, orgasm a topic we write about and debate almost indefinitely,” read a statement on the webpage.
Norwegians have had different comments on this show, almost everyone has talked about it in one way or another. Parents, youths, the Christian leaders and Christians especially those from the Bible belt (Kristiansand), Newspapers and tabloids, bloggers and last nights episode was probably the climax of them all, I think at least of the episodes that have gone on air.
I hope you get to understand my reactions about this program based on my cultural orientation. You can be sure such a program will NEVER ever be aired on a Kenyan Television. At least not when I am still alive. Maybe during my great grandchildren´s era. I am always reminded that we in Africa, are probably where Norway was, about 60 years back. Which I now agree, if I am to make my judgement based on this particular TV program.
Two of my Norwegian friends had already volunteered to watch the program with us, my housemate and I. So they came to our house, one reason is they needed to translate to us when we seem lost during last nights episode. “Before we watch this, I must say that today´s show is very historical on a Norwegian TV. It is the very first time we are having such a program especially on a national broadcaster. So note that it does not represent what Norway is all about, at least not the views of most Norwegians,” said one of them. She informs us of the controversy and debate that has surrounded this program.
I am carefully glued on TV, at 9.30pm Norwegian time at least for the next 49 minutes. NRK has actually recorded that this is currently the most watched NRK TV program on the net. The three presenters perform different tasks. Johanna is 21 years with a straight orientation, she shares a secret on the NRK´s webpage (I have a piercing in tits). Benjamin is 20 years with gay orientation and he shares his sex tips on the webpage (Take it easy, not analysis. Sex is natural and delicious, not brain surgery). Then, there is Even, who is 20 years with a heterosexual orientation, and he shares his little secret too *(I sleep naked).
Ok, so now you know that these 3 presenters are actually in their early 20´s. (20, 20 and 21). This is where my problem begins. 20 year olds, what are they telling people about sex? At only 20, I am looking at them as my younger brothers and sisters and of course very inexperienced in life in general. (Understand my naivety based on my cultural background), but hey, this is Europe. I am in total shock as I watch this show! You should have seen the gaze on my face. I am only taking concern of the various pictures I need to take throughout the show, but the rest of the time, I am speechless.
Not so long, my phone rings,*(And I shout, no-no not now!! ) I check who is calling? One of my African friends, then I pick up and he says, “Please watch NRK 3”. You get the point as to why all of us as Africans thought, ok, this was a bit too much. I am imagining the same showing on Kenya Broadcasting Corporation at 9.30pm.
We have talked about it in different contexts and how our parents find it embarrassing watching TV series with their children, especially when it gets to kissing scenes. You can see how they want to leave the living room. Not so long, I was at my aunt’s place, with her two daughters *( 22 & 24), and there was this soap opera that they loved to watch and when it got to the kissing scenes, she always said, “Please change the channel, I would like to see what is happening on the other channel.” Once one of the girls made an outburst, “No mum, enough of you asking us to change the channel all the time they are kissing, what is so special with the two kissing?” Hope you get my point.
So these presenters last night had different assignments and everything was very illustrative, and I mean very illustrative. Though they looked bold, they explained about how nervous they felt before and even during the whole process. Johanna is visiting a sexologist.
“My mission this week was that I was going to go for orgasm courses. As soon as I got the text, I was nervous, not knowing quite what to expect. The secret is that I have not had an orgasm before, and now I get a chance to do something about it,” read Johanna´s diary on Trekant, NRK3´s webpage.
“When I got there, I was going to meet Betty Dodson who is a famous orgasm doctor from New York. Betty would teach me how to take myself and where the focus should be”. Adds Johanna. Therefore, this was all shown on the TV, from point A to Z, uncensored at all! Unbelievable. (With my passion for media, not even for a million Norwegian Kroner, I will NEVER participate in such a show as the presenter, but I am ready to be the idea behind such a show especially in Kenya.)
I am happy we are all different with different guts in life! Sexologist advisor Stine Kuhle, has a her comments in bold “Hands are our most important tools, if it using fingers on the women’s clitoris, head on a soft, wet and quick way that makes most women orgasm easier,” advises Kuhle Hansen.
Even, has an assignment on gender and he is commissioned to go to the penis doctor. “My God, so little cool! I have been checked before and so there was no stress, but what if something is wrong and it comes on TV, he shares his worry on his diary at the NRK´s webpage.
“My worst nightmare must be something “down there”, if not as it should be. If one breaks his left arm, so it is like plaster and rest, then the right again. But what about your dick? If one is sick on the vagina? Diseases, symptoms and treatments, I do not know very much about it even though everything is seemingly good, than it should be? It is manhood somehow, that if something down there is not as it should be…It is off”.
On the TV show, we see him at the doctor, and he goes through lessons with the doctor who explains different things emphasis being not on the size of the penis but how to use the organ in the right way. “As I sat in the waiting room I was very nervous. But after being told that I have a “normal Norwegian labor dick”, I breathed a sigh of relief.” Total incredible for this Kenyan girl!
To pierce or not to!
Then, we have Benjamin. He had quite a peculiar assignment. I am informed this is because of the on-going debate about many men having quite huge fascination on whether or not to pierce their organs, shave or not to and generally about the performance of their organs. (read penis)
“The tour venues throughout Oslo was really quite cool! I got to see a guy get his cock pierced, learned about how to improve his sexual organ and I got an intimate wax! Got scared, but hey free waxing is hard to say no to, even though it was very painful and there is some persistent pain!”
On the TV, we see all this process. I am still in disbelief. Immediately the show ends, we sit down to discuss about it, the ethical implications involved in such a show, the reality of the show, the essence of the show, the Christians in Norway take on the show, Norwegian´s in general: their opinion on the same and my reactions to it as an African Christian girl, with a bit strict morals I would say, (as perceived by many and I hear that could be one of the reasons that the lady presenter is a black Norwegian). My friends once more insisted, “ Patience, as we said before, this is very historical, even for us Norwegians. Many people are watching this show in secret and would not admit to have watched it, ask people around tomorrow and get back to me. It is quite embarrassing we will say,” remarked one of my friends.
I get to the office this morning and I ask my male colleagues about it and they laugh at me, “Come on, what was shocking on that program, huh? Don´t people masturbate in Kenya? Welcome to Norway, this is real life.” You should know I am still in shock!
“ You know last night at 9.30pm when the show started, I really wanted to switch off the TV, I really tried but, believe me, I could not see the off button, not at all. I always know where it was but not last night. I tried to unplug my TV socket, I struggled but in vain, so I had to watch it until it came to an end, and so did you I guess.” Said another one amidst heavy laughter.
I liked the show, that’s a fact *(I will explain why) though I have a few reservations on the same. I am collecting my reactions on this show, feel free to tell me what you think. Read part two of this blog post next week on Tuesday!
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticized anyway.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Here is one of the You Tube clip attached to the NRK´s webpage in connection to last night´s episode.